A father's role in parenting may seem mundane and unimportant compared to everything else that he has to do during the week. After all, his career keeps him busy and with this fast paced society he rarely has time to unwind. Times are really changing these days and the world is definitely changing around us. If there is one thing that never changes it is a fathers important role of raising his children to become productive adults.
There are basically 5 ways that the father's role in parenting helpls the whole family (whether they are with the children's mother or not).
1. Give the mother respect. It doesnt matter whether you live with the childrens mother are not she deserves your respect. By giving her respect you teach the children to have respect for her and for others. By respecting each other parents give their children a sense of stability and security, even and perhaps especially if they are no longer together. I seeing their parents respect each other children tend to feel that they are respected and accepted.
2. Set time aside to spend with your children as a family. Having family time is important; this gives your children a sense of security and connectedness. It is important for your children to see you putting time into your family and cultivating the relationship between you and your spouse. If you are no longer with the mother of your children use your children still need to see that they are a part of a family. Showing that you place importance on the family and other tasks involved in father's role in parenting will teach your children to place value on this as well.
3. Be a strong role model. As a father you should live your life as you would want your children to live theirs. Teaching children to, do is I say not as I do rarely ever works. You should emulate the type of person that you want them to become. If you do not want your children to go bar hopping and to become addicts then you need to show them by example. When children see their parents making mistakes they dont learn to not make those mistakes; what they learn is its acceptable behavior. Instead of losing your childrens respect and having them they give you is being hypocritical you really should follow your own advice and live the role of the type of person that you want your children to become.
4. Teach the children. Being a teacher is so much more than handing them the basic lessons they learned in school. Your children need a teacher in the classroom called life. The subject matter that they learn in your life classes include lessons in respect, love, choice and decision making and the knowledge of the right from wrong. Being their father puts you in the most important teaching position. Your classroom is life, your bulletin board is the behaviors that you demonstrate and your bonus pay is getting to watch your child grow into a confident adult.
5. Be the head of the household. The most important job you can have and quite possibly the most important part of father's role in parenting is being the head of the household. As with any other organized group there needs to be a leader, you are this leader. It is important that you take on this job from the beginning knowing that it is a serious position. As a father and a husband it is your position to lead your family. For your family to feel secure and for your children to grow up with high self esteem you need to be a strong leader.
Being a strong leader does not mean being a dictator. Being a strong leader does not mean being bossy. Being a strong leader does not mean being abusive. By being a strong leader you gently but firmly leach your family, you set a good example for your family to follow, you teach your family and you learn from your family. A good leader never undervalues those that he is in charge of.
It is important to never undervalue the father's role and parenting. The combination of the fathers firm hand and disciplining practices along with his example of help and comfort coupled with a mothers warm caring and gentle demeanor can help a family to set positive values and help your children to carry positive values and self confidence throughout their lives.
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