As parents we are faced with childhood disorders which other generations never even had to face. These disabilities create a crisis between children and parents and often the quality of the attachment is affected in a negative way. The main problem is that parents tend to use the same parenting techniques time and time again and they will even insist on doing so, in spite of the fact that the child's behaviour has not changed one little bit.

Child abuse and neglect are often a result of poor parenting techniques especially where esasperated parents go overboard and the results are dramatic for all concerned. Parents are desperately trying to learn techniques which will be effective and save them an expensive trip to a child therapist.

Children will always copy their parents' behaviour, rather than doing what the parents TELL them to do ! Very often, the children are only imitating what they have seen their parents doing all the time.

Sometimes it is possible to act in a completely surprising manner - the child is caught off guard and laughter relieves the tension of the situation. You can avoid punishment by simply applying the consequences of the child's behaviour. The child is now faced with coping witha predicament caused by his or her own behaviour and they do not get angry with the parents because no punishment has been meted out to them. This means they cannot go on and on about how unfair a paunishment is because you are using a completely different technique. The great advantage is that you do not have to dream up a suitable punishment on the spot!

If the ground rules have been established by ALL the family, then it is up to the parents to enforce consequences when family rules are broken. The temptation to react emotionally when children break rules is alleviated because a breach of the rules is no longer perceived as an assault on parental authority, since it is by the authority of the family, not the authority of the parents, that the rules were established.

Some child therapists advocate guerrilla parenting techniques where you respond to your children in ways totally different than what they expect, mentioned above. If a child is fighting with a sibling, perhaps that child has to do his siblings chores the next day to make up for his negative actions, instead of being sent to his room. It is the certainty of a consequence coming that has impact with children. Making children feel they are wrong, belittling them and/or putting them down is NOT an example of guerrilla parenting techniques.

If you have a child showing a negative, snotty attitude, walk by and hand your child a tissue. See if your child figures it out without your help. Dont say anything, just hand it to the child. What about the child who likes to say, 'That's stupid.' If your child says this phrase a lot, say, 'No, this is stupid,' and do something really crazy like walk backwards with your head between your legs. Then, stroll away and leave the child wondering what that was all about.

Sometimes parents dream of having good obedient children who grow up as happy balanced individuals.The link to the site below reveals parenting techniques developed by a doctor for his own kids (two of whom suffered from ADHD). These were so successful that his kids are growing up as happy balanced children.

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