If you have recently been through a break up and have been wondering how to get your ex back, ask yourself instead how you are doing emotionally right now? If you find yourself crying all the time at every sad song you hear or over anything that reminds you of your ex lover it's time to get yourself back together.
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During the intense emotional upheaval of a relationship break up it can be hard to keep your emotional balance. And if you tend to be a more melancholy type of person it can be easy to sink into depression and self pity.
This may sometimes lead you to secretly hope that perhaps if your ex girlfriend knows how much pain you are in she will feel sorry for you and you will get back together again. It may seem easier to go looking for sympathy instead of love and this may succeed in getting your exgirlfriend's attention for awhile, many women have a tendency to feel they need to rescue and help when they see someone in distress. But think about why this will backfire on you in the long run. In effect you are saddling your ex girlfriend with your emotional pain, and because women are usually more sensitive and nurturing she may come back to you just to save you from hurting so bad, but this doesn't lay the foundation for a good relationship, you are planting the seeds for a very dysfunctional, co-dependent type of relationship instead. A relationship that will only cause both of you a lot of unhappiness in the future. And even if you aren't consciously aware that you are doing it this falls under the category of manipulative behaviors - a serious relationship killer. You might succeed in getting your ex girlfriend to feel sorry for you and decide to come back, but would you rather have pity or real love? Looking for sympathy instead of love may get your ex girlfriend's attention for awhile, but in the end you will be further behind than when you started. You deserve better, and if you don't think so then you need to find ways to boost your confidence and start liking yourself more. To really have any hope of getting your ex girlfriend back you have to understand that you just cannot attract someone's love when you are being clingy, needy and emotionally desperate. Take this time now instead and use it to work on yourself. Start doing things that make you feel better, stronger and happier and you will not only begin to like yourself more but you will become more attractive to your ex too. Then you are ready to begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex girlfriend back.
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