A very spiritual woman I know shared the following with me: she said, 'I used to have unfortunate beliefs about myself and I received back from external influences unfortunate results. When I decided to take control and raise my resonance, to be the change I wanted to become, to allow abundance and love come flow through me, absolutely everything fell into place. I am now living a life of leisure with a beautiful husband and I can draw what I want into my universe at will.'

What does it take to be magnetic? Can we really draw money, love or health simply by telling ourselves we are magnets for what we want?

It's easier than you think. It simply takes a shift in perception.

We choose what we focus on in life. We choose to be miserable when it rains and happy when it's sunny. Or we can appreciate the downpour as an opportunity to take care of indoor activities or to go splashing through puddles.

By putting our focus on good, we draw good to us. Conversely, by focusing on grief, we draw more to grieve. There's absolutely a place for grief in our lives, I'm not suggesting otherwise, but we need to be mindful that we are not suffering over our own suffering and not continually drawing grief to us.

The other day I overheard a girl in a cafe telling her friend, 'I'm a freak magnet. I can't leave my apartment without running into someone either clinically insane, someone whacked out on drugs or fanatical about some weirdness who wants to have extensive interaction with me.'

Her friend responded, 'That's strange. Your neighborhood is really nice. I can't imagine there would be too many freaks around there.'

'I don't know. The freaks just seem to find me. They're everywhere that I am. They're just out there waiting for me to leave the house to try to get me to join their cult.'

I thought to myself how awful it was for this girl to have this belief about herself, that no matter where she goes, no matter what she's doing, she's going to draw the lowest common denominator to her.

This is really how attraction works. What you think about yourself, you are. What you believe about the world, is your reality. What you speak, is your truth.

I was tempted, but didn't tell her, 'You could just as easily not be a 'freak magnet' by telling yourself you're some other kind of magnet.' My intrusion, sadly, would have merely confirmed her self-diagnosis and she'd misinterpret my attempt at kindness as just another freak trying to freak her out.

So whatever your beliefs are about the world, I implore you, take this freak's advice and adjust it to bring you all that you ever wanted and not the lowest common denominator.

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Kenrick Cleveland teaches strategies to earn the business of affluent prospects using persuasion. He runs public and private seminars and offers home study courses and coaching programs in persuasion strategies.