Perhaps you've heard the proverbial old saw about "Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed". The logic behind this phrase is important for you to understand right now if you are serious about wanting to get your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife back in your life and you have been acting a little needy or desperate.
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No matter how good your intentions of wanting to stop your break up and win your ex back are, if you are committing some of these common break up blunders you will actually be hurting your chances of winning your lost love back.
Are you committing any of these ten breakup blunders? 1.Telling your ex that you think they are making a huge mistake. This isn't going to get them to pause and think it over, it will only make them more sure that they made the right decision to break up with you in the first place. 2. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has broken up with you and this should make it clear that they need some space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you. 3. Drunk Dialing. You may be drowning your sorrows and the alcohol is intensifying your emotional state so you keep calling and trying to get your ex to talk to you.... See #2 5. Leaving a lot of voice mail and email messages.... Again - see #2 5. Telling your ex how depressed, sad or lonely you have been since the break up. You may think this will appeal to your ex's sympathetic nature but instead, you are saddling them with your emotions and overwhelming them with your neediness. And this is actually a manipulative behavior, however unintentional, which can deliver a real sledge blow to the relationship. 6. Continuing to argue about the breakup and bring up past disagreements and misunderstandings. Perhaps you do get your ex's attention and get them to talk to you. Is this the best use of your precious contact time? It really is being fairly petty and immature and really isn't going to get you where you want to go. It only keeps you stuck in the past instead. 7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that your ex doesn't understand how much your really love them, that's obviously not the issue at the moment or they wouldn't have wanted to leave. It's time to take a different approach and start analyzing what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change instead of believing that true love conquers all. 8. Apologizing over and over and over again. Now maybe you did something wrong, perhaps even really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise. An apology is in order, but you have to know the right way to make an effective apology and rarely anyone knows how to do this. You also don't want to make the mistake of apologizing too soon. And if you didn't do something that warrants an apology, then you are compromising yourself and this isn't an attractive trait in anybody. 9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Now this may work initially because of the way humans are wired to seem to want what they can't have, and may even be a small part of a smart strategy to get your ex back. But it still won't help you in the long run if you are only depending on manipulative tactics to win your ex back. The underlying problems that caused the break up in the first place will still be there and if those aren't addressed you'll only be heading for another break up. 10. Pleading with them to take you back. I'll let you in on a little secret here: people like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so desperately that they will sacrifice their self respect by begging. Now you know what common blunders you need to avoid if you want to have the best chance of winning back your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. So start to analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change and then you are ready to make some SMARTER moves to get your ex back.
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